Whatever is best for you

So, I just read a bunch of responses from moms from both sides of an issue from an article a magazine did called: 10 Things To Know About......bottle feeding. It was so maddening to me and I don't understand why some mom's who nurse are so nasty towards those of us who don't/didn't.
I chose not to breastfeed any of the boys b/c I just didn't care for it for me. Henry supported the decision I had made and didn't give me anything crap about it. I did all the research on the pros & cons of both and in the end I chose to the bottle w/ formula. I had one moment when Zale was only a few days old and we weren't prepared w/ a bottle to give him that I felt like if I had chose to nurse he wouldn't be screaming his little head off b/c he's hungry. As soon as he got that bottle it was over and I was fine. Other than that one moment I have never felt like I made a bad choice.
To suggest that I am a bad mom or lazy is insulting and not true! I work hard everyday and have since the day all of my boys were born. I also read another mom say that I am passing up my parental job by giving the baby to someone to feed him. I never "gave up" my "job" to someone to feed I only did it when someone asked to feed them. I have fed all of my boys the most from the day they were born. I don't expect anyone to do it for me I had them and I know I'm the one responsible to feed them and so forth. To say that I'm going to make my boys fat b/c I didn't nurse is absurd to me, that they will be the most sickly children and somehow not as smart b/c I didn't nurse all drive me insane!! I betcha $10 bucks that their nursed baby wasn't using a fork and spoon to eat with exclusively at 10 months like Zale did, and that he hasn't been to the Dr's as much as their child has for being sick. It's just the way he was made: superb fine motor skills, and an excellent immune system. It had nothing to do with breast or bottle. Now don't get me wrong I know all the benefits of breast feeding and I'm not saying they aren't true but it also just depends on the particular baby/child and how they are genetically from the very moment of conception.
If a mom wants to nurse that's fantastic, if they want to do both breast milk and formula that's fantastic, if they want to use formula that's fantastic!!! Whatever you chose is what's best. The straight up nursing moms gave an o.k. for the moms who have medical reasons for not nursing but for those of us who just chose not to breast feed b/c we didn't want too. Well, we should have everyone chastise us and tell us we are horrible moms and we should our baby's health in front of own. I would die before anyone or anything harmed my boys I made the best decision for them and they are happy, healthy and thriving. The only one that gets sick the most is Chase and it's just b/c he has a different immune system than the other two it's just has how was made and I have no doubt that even if I did nurse him he would be exactly the same way. I know that when you nurse you never have to worry about if the breast will fit in the baby's mouth correctly and you don't need to worry about if the milk is the wrong kind for the baby and that for the most part it's pretty convenient. We had our had our fair share of bottle & formula problems with Chase and Dean but we figured it all out quickly and no one ever lost any weight or suffered b/c of not figuring it out soon enough. Yeah , we ended up having (at the end) buying 4 different kinds of bottles even though we only had 3 boys but it was o.k. b/c we knew what we had to do to keep them fed and healthy. We had to get the right kind of formula for each of them but again it was something we needed to do to make our little guy happy & fed. However after saying that I would never say I made the wrong choice for my boys. I stand by the choice and tell people all the time when they ask and I don't apologize either.
Why can't we as mom's and women even just support each other. Is it really that hard for us to do? We are seriously our own worst enemies! We will probably be this way for the rest of our lives. Even in the nursing homes we will find something wrong with what the other is doing. Why can't we just be happy for each other and our families and how we are doing as moms & dads? I wish I knew the answer. I just want to be a women who can go against the flow. I want to be a woman and mom who can empathize w/ other mom whether they are new moms or veterans I want to be there for them for whatever they need. If I can physically be there to help or emotionally or giving advice when asked, I want to be a supportive fellow woman/mom. My wish is that every woman/mom would strive to be that way. Just be there with no judgment, no accusations, no saying that my way is better, or you are doing it all wrong. We all have our hardships with being a mom and we all need help, love and encouragement from others.